Some of us learn slow and other never learn. I spent my life proving a point, which is love don’t love nobody. The only think a black woman understands is control and I mean physical restrictions. The old saying about first the money and then the power and then you can enjoy the rest to include sex, is real.
Sure you can alter the process and enjoy sex first but you will end up with nothing but a bunch of child support payments. Women liberation screwed a lot of things up, women think they run the world, because they have college degrees, while the black man is incarcerated, but in reality they are simply defenseless and at the mercy of the men of the community.
Until the black woman can learn to step aside and let the black man lead the black family will be highly dysfunctional. Look at the black community where there is very little unity among the people, they rob, kill and assault each other over trivial shit, because the black man today is disparate.